WHY YOU NEED TO MOVE OUT OF HOME AFTER COLLEGE!

It is post your graduation day where all your relatives attended to make sure that the son/daughter of their relative is really becoming a money maker for the clan, expectations are high on you. Let’s say you have landed a dream job (only in movies) say it again? And real life is hitting on your face. You have been comfortably living with mum and dad, obeying their house rules but we know that it is not easy at all. If you’re still not sure whether you need to finally move out of your parents’ house, let’s get you sorted. Below are some obvious signs that you need to stop sharing a roof with mum and dad.
1. Privacy concerns
As a young adult, there are things you start to put away from public, even siblings – like your cellphone, laptop, personal diary, bath and body products and things of such. Even if you do want them to be known, sometimes you want them not to be used by anyone. The clothes and shoe sharing game with siblings and with mum/dad is no longer cool and personal stuff is to be at your reach only. Old habits die hard, siblings may not get this very quickly-especially those down the line and trouble will start to brew.
2. Responsible Shoulders
Learning to become accountable to oneself and others is the pinnacle of adulthood. But can it come when you are being provided for at home, freely? Experience is the best teacher they say and being on your own out there will teach you very important life skills. Having no one to turn to when faced with hardships can lead to a better citizen/individual who can ultimately rear a better family.
3. Freedom of Choice
Who does not like an independent life where you are not reliant on anybody? The life where you count more on you and less on others. You believe in your instincts more than your parents’ experience. Then be it in monetary terms or for simple household chores. Doing everything on your own imparts a confidence which is much required in the today’s tough life.
4. My House, My Rules
I feel your pain! The wahala you go through living under someone’s roof by abiding by their rules. It’s pretty natural and you can’t really blame your parents because of what they like, you might not like and what you like, they definitely don’t like. So having a place of your own gives you the freedom to design it the way you want, make your own rules, live life on your own terms and have burger for dinner for endless number of days!
5. Growth Urge
When you are on your own - dad’s not going to clean the car for you, mum’s not going to clean your disgusting bathroom and no one is going near your dirty laundry. And guess what you have to do the dishes! This will help you to grow to become a responsible young adult who can take care of themselves. Hardship makes everyone to have a clearer perspective on life.
6. End The Curfews!
The thing is your parents still worry about you. When they know you’re out, they want to make sure you get home in one piece. That can sometimes mean requesting you come home before they go to sleep. It’s easy to get angry at them when they treat you like you’re 17, but it’s sort of tough to blame them.
7. Friends Can’t Visit Anytime
Your friends want to meet up for some chit chat or a significant other wants to spend time with you, but here are some other people too who are living in that same house. We can’t chill out the way we do with parents around. And at this very moment, you wish you had been living alone in your own slap me-I slap you room/town house and have all the crazy fun you are right now missing on.
8. Nagging Games
Somehow parents are very likely to point out all the flaws in their children or indicating the unfinished chores. Why clothes are still lying on bed, why there is too much piled up stuff in your room? Parents have a say in everything we do which most of the times takes the form of lecturing, scolding or punishing. To just to avoid the lecturing and nagging, you might want to move out.
9. Locking Horns
Clashing opinions with owners of the house all the time can take a toll on you. Our parents belong to a generation which is almost twice a decade older than us. They ought to have a different mindset, different ideologies and different likes-dislikes than us. Difference in opinion often leads to ego clashes where often nobody is wrong but they just can’t agree with each other. And this often results to family conflicts which are unavoidable if you and your family are living under the same roof.
10. Everyone Needs Space
Your parents could go out and enjoy romantic lunches as a couple anytime they want but now they have a family which takes the prior most position in life. They become unable to manage spending some quality time with themselves. It’s time to give them some private space so that they can enjoy life the way they want. After all it’s not just about your freedom every time. Your parents’ is as much important.
I hope the list was extensive enough to churn thoughts of moving from your family home. Now buy those moving boxes, find a small housing unit to stay, pack up and say goodbye!